The motto underpinning all my novels is this: The only thing wrong with being gay is how some people treat you when they find out.
My essay, The Case for Acceptance: An Open Letter to Humanity, describes how I came to this conclusion and why I feel so strongly about it. The work tackles the assumptions---secular and sacred---held by people who disagree with my motto. It examines sexual orientation in light of science and reason, and it presents a strategic approach to scripture that leaves it in tact while bringing it into contemporary life. The essay is available in electronic format from a variety of sources.
If there's an organization that has helped you and you don't see it listed below, please let me know.
General G/L Organizations and Sites
"Ex-gay" Information and support
Truth Wins Out: Monitors anti-LGBT organizations, documents their lies and exposes their leaders as charlatans
Soulforce: Helping to end the trauma caused by "reparative" therapies
Beyondexgay: Online community for survivors
Ex-GayWatch: Current information on successes and challenges in exposing the fallacy of "ex-gay"
Parents and Family/Friends of Lesbians and Gays promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons, their families and friends through support and advocacy. They believe that change happens on the grassroots level in local communities, and their number one priority is to support the work of local affiliates.
The leading national organization focused on crisis intervention and suicide prevention efforts among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) youth
Created by writer/editor Dan Savage and his partner Terry Miller, It Gets Better is "...a place where young people who are lesbian, gay, bi, or trans can see how love an happiness can be a reality in their future. It's a place where straight allies can visit and support their friends and family members."
As with other things in life, alcohol and drug rehab typically assumes "everyone is straight." Not only is this false, but also many sources believe that substance use disorders have a greater effect on LGBTQ+ people than on the heterosexual population. If you are LGBTQ+ and would benefit from rehab that's inclusive and that focuses on your specific issues, here are some resources for you to consider.
STDs can put a real cramp in your style. Here are a couple of resources focused on your overall sexual health.
There are several at-home STD testing kits available, some costing more than others. NOTE: These tests are meant to provide information and education, not to diagnose or treat medical conditions. They should not replace a consultation with a healthcare provider. Also, different diseases have different incubation periods, so keep that in mind in terms of when and how often you test. Here is a Guide to finding the best in-home STD test for you.
LGBTQ+ individuals often find themselves on the receiving end of practices or actions that violate their rights. Here are some resources that provide legal support, advice, and/or assistance.
The Task Force builds the political power of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community from the ground up by training activists, organizing broad-based campaigns to defeat anti-LGBT referenda and advance pro-LGBT legislation, and by building the organizational capacity of the movement.
The Good As You site represents a new generation of GLSBT activism by using humor and irreverence rather than anger and protests. Strives to provide a safe, progressive and positive forum in order to eliminate discrimination and intolerance.
It's true we have a lot of work to do in our quest for equal rights for the GLBT community, but we wouldn't be as far as we are today if not for the courage and determination of those who are now in their later years. SAGE (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) is the world’s oldest and largest non-profit agency addressing the needs of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender elders, working with the community to overcome discrimination in senior service settings and to help create informal caregiving support and development of new “family” networks.
This is a long list of resources organized into categories such as News & Media, Orgainzations, Legal, Elected Officials, Colleges, and a few other links.
On Marriage Equality
Keep up with the changing scene on marriage equality in the U.S. Check out Freedom To Marry.
Same-sex Legalization History by Attorney at Law Ken LaMance (managing editor, LegalMatch Law Library) takes us from early Rome to today with the history of marriage legalization battles around the world.
Information on the filing of taxes by same-sex couples, from TurboTax.
Articles/Material of Interest
Don't you hate those supposedly reasonable questions that anti-gay people feel it's their right not only to ask but also to expect an answer to? Here are some questions to ask in return.
Despite requests over many years for Exodus International to substantiate its claims that "ex-gay" is possible, this organization—arguable the largest in the world—had to admit failure. In June of 2013, they closed their doors forever, leaving behind a woefully inadequate apology and countless ruined lives.
(NY Times, Nicholas Wade) Describes studies showing how homosexuals and heterosexuals respond to human pheromones
Gay Youth Resources
Hotlines, issues with parents, HIV info, G/L youth groups, and more. If you visit, let Alex know you found his link here; he'd love to know that!
This is a site for teens to express themselves in their own stories, poetry, art, audio, and online conversations.
Their mission is to build safe, healthy, supportive environments for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning youth. While their primary focus is Vermont, they offer guidance and general resource info, and they provide a beautiful example to follow.
Lee Wind has set up a space he calls "The Place to find out about Young Adult fiction books with Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and Questioning characters and themes." He liked both of my books, so he must be okay!